Thursday, November 06, 2008
Well, I have been hanging out with my friends from my community and its been a blast so far. Still a little bit out of place, but I think that's okay. I mean, I'm comfortable where I am.
Anyway, I later on found that they can be pretty interesting. When I was younger I thought they were all about the service. But I realized that they were, are a real barkada. It feels nice to look at them that way, that I'm no different from them. i'm learning to loosen up around them.
Okay, anyway, I guess its just sad to hear stories of breaking up inside their circle. It's just that, I had this weird notion that being in the community saves you from those kind of things. From heartbreak, especially since you have a solid group of friends to back you up every time. I thought it was some sort of shield. I guess its really wrong that I looked at it that way. Maybe it does have a few plus points, but as one of them put it, if they really weren't meant to be... then I guess its just that. Three of them broke up this year. How sad.
I was rooting for them. They were the couples who I saw were kind of alike with me and babe. Some of them with the same sitch: long-distance relationship. Well... I guess some people just don't get the whole separation thing. I don't know, I'm not an expert on the whole LDR thing and I shouldn't be too quick to judge.
Maybe... like I would always say, they're just going through a moment of weakness. Period of adjustment, or whatever it is you want to call them. Setbacks, hiccups. I'm still rooting for them anyway.
It makes me less happy, but I guess... some learning there. yes, its nice for a couple to belong in the same circle of friends. There will always be someone to level with you, makes you see the big picture a little more clearer. Someone to view it from the outside. Sumbungan sessions that sometimes make it easier for the two to patch up, kiss and make up. And its a little cute for boys and girls kwento about their lovelives. Its nice to have other people involved and witness your love for each other... But really, at the end of the day, it all boils down to the two of you. Your relationship with each other. How you feel; your love, your trust... because no matter how solid and supportive your friends are of your relationship, if it goes wrong for you two, they can't be the ones to patch it up. They aren't in that relationship. So you really have to take time away from the sphere and form your own circle of trust. So that when friends lose the time to be with the two of you, you're both capable of handling the relationship on your own. You're able of making the right choices for your relationship...
Well, I'm thankful for our friends, I love them to bits. And I'm looking forward to spending more time with them... I'm so excited for our Bora trip and i dunno, Pagudpud or Batangas trip when my babe arrives. Yay!!! And I love that we're there for each other. We're counting years man. I'm sure we will be there for every milestone in relationships, separate lives. We're still waiting for the day when Pao will show up with a potential girlfriend. But I'm pretty confident we all will make it. We can never tell what will happen in the future, but surely, our friendship will stay.
Anyway, I'm more thankful, that my relationship with my babe continues to grow, stronger and deeper everyday. That's the most important thing. :))
oh well... 42 days to go!!! :))
another adventure for COSMOGIRL!
