Tuesday, October 07, 2008
Somewhat inspired today...
I read my friend's blog entry in multiply... about her and a special friend. I don't know if they're together because they broke up some years ago, yet nothing has really changed between them. Now I don't know if they're officially a couple again...
Anyway, it just made me think of my relationship with my babe.
Awwh, how I wish I could also post what I feel in my multiply account where all the world, or at least where people we know can read it... But right now I'd rather keep it here. I'm still finding the balance, or at least the line where my babe thinks what I'm writing is nice and amusing, and when he thinks I'm gettig ahead of our plans. I know... I used to resent that, but sometimes, or most of the time he has a point naman. He's just a private individual, that's all. And he doesn't want me sharing half-baked plans to random people on the internet. He's a less talk, more action kind of guy...
So, I'm confined by the "walls" of this blogspot... where I can freely express and be public about our love life, for lack of a better term as of now.
As I help out friends and family with their upcoming marriages and in the preparations, pre-nup photos, I see how their personalities, as a couple and individually come out of the wedding essentials. So I think of me and my babe... and can't help but marvel on how we are as a couple...
I picture us, laughing our heads off, having a good time. Because that's what we do best - having fun. I think we're a pretty fun couple. Well, minus the booze and the clubbing and making fun of other people. We strive on having a 100% pure lifestyle... yet we have a good time. And our friends don't seem to mind. I thought it'll be hard... without the lifestyle I used to have. Some people though that I might find it boring and difficult one day, without the parties and excess lifestyle. But, they don't know him like I do. He's the funniest, most humorous person I know! He can make anybody laugh! People are drawn with his energy. So now when I look back at the lifestyle I used to have, all that drinking, getting wasted and a bad case of hangover the next day, I realize that I don't really miss it. I just miss the dancing though... I remember the time we were out on a bar with our friends, one minute inside the cramped bar and he immediately made his way out the door. We ended up in Timezone instead. Another time was when we had a night out in Subic, and we got him to stand up and dance, with all of us nudging him...by the time he agreed, the dj's set was almost through. But I loved that moment of dancing with him. My favorite dancing moment though, was during the YFC Disco Nights... well, we pretty much hammed it up with friends separately during the hiphop tunes, but when the slow songs started playing, he took my hand and we danced. For a minute there we were the only ones dancing...its like we were the cue that other's were waiting to pair up and dance. It was like a scene from a romantic flick. What made it more special was me knowing that he doesn't like dancing around a large crowd.... that's the dancing memory that Ill always remember him of...
My father believes that our family is like a sitcom. Which is how it should be. There's not too much drama or rambles or fighting involved. Yes there will be minor hiccups each day, but nothing that won't be resolved by talking and laughing and making happy memories together. So my family is like that, and its such a blessing that my fiancee is the perfect fit, perfect addition to our cast. Like, have I told you how hilarious he is? well if I have, that's because he's really THAT funny! He'll give those comedians a run for their money. So I can't help but imagine how we're gonna be when he's officially a member of our family.
I think we've moved on from the dramatic phase of our fighting, when we spend sleepless nights on endless arguments. Where neither of us wanted to give up on our sides of the story. Walking out on each other, with friends around us, overhearing our fight. That was kind of exciting and embarrassing if you ask me. Yet we've grown... I believe both of us have become more mature and levelheaded in dealing with our problems. No more dramatic scenes that will leave us(especially me because I'm usually the one making a scene) embarrassed. It's nothing a trip to the basketball court (for him) and writing in a diary or blog (for me) won't clear.
Its just a fantastic relationship minus the drama. Its a sitcom nga eh. A real-life sitcom. With each fight ending in laughter. And cuddling. It's Aga to Agot in Oki Doki Doc. It's when he makes me smile even when I'm fighting every urge to do so...
Now that we've been together for more than three fun and exciting years, I'm positive that boring is nothing of what I signed up for. And in the years to come, I know I'll still be happy with him, fooling around, chasing each other in our own living room, smiling that smile I have every time I remember him.
another adventure for COSMOGIRL!
